What is meant by taking the kuffaar as friends Ruling on mixing with the kuffaar

What is meant by taking the kuffaar as friends? Ruling on mixing with the kuffaar
In the Quraan, it says that we can not take the Kuffaar as awliyaa, but what does that mean? I mean, to what degree? Can we do business with them still? If I’m at school, can we play basketball with them? Can we talk to them about basketball and stuff? Can we hang out with them as long as they keep their beliefs to themselves? The reason I ask is because someone I know does hang out with them in this way and it doesn’t affect his beliefs, but I still tell him, “Why don’t you hang out with the muslims instead?” He says that most or many of the Muslims drink and take drugs where they hang out and they have girlfriends and he’s afraid that the sins of the Muslims will lure him, yet he’s sure that the Kufr of the Kaafirs will not lure him because that’s something that isn’t attractive to him. So is hanging out with them, playing sports with them, and talking with them about sports considered as “taking them as awliyaa instead of the believers” keeping in mind that he is doing that for his own eemaan?.

 

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:  

Allaah has forbidden the believers to take the kaafireen
(disbelievers) as friends, and He has issued a stern warning against doing
that. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Take
not the Jews and the Christians as Awliyaa’ (friends, protectors, helpers),
they are but Awliyaa’ of each other. And if any amongst you takes them (as
Awliyaa’), then surely, he is one of them. Verily, Allaah guides not those
people who are the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers and unjust)”

[al-Maa’idah 5:51] 

Shaykh al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

In this verse Allaah tells us that whoever takes the Jews and
Christians as friends is one of them because of his taking them as friends.
Elsewhere Allaah states that taking them as friends incurs the wrath of
Allaah and His eternal punishment, and that if the one who takes them as
friends was a true believer he would not have taken them as friends. Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“You see many of them
taking the disbelievers as their Awliyaa’ (protectors and helpers). Evil
indeed is that which their ownselves have sent forward before them; for that
(reason) Allaah’s Wrath fell upon them, and in torment they will abide.

81. And had they believed
in Allaah, and in the Prophet (Muhammad) and in what has been revealed to
him, never would they have taken them (the disbelievers) as Awliyaa’
(protectors and helpers); but many of them are the Faasiqoon (rebellious,
disobedient to Allaah)”

[al-Maa’idah 5:80-81] 

Elsewhere Allaah forbids taking them as friends and explains
the reason for that, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Take
not as friends the people who incurred the Wrath of Allaah (i.e. the Jews).
Surely, they have despaired of (receiving any good in) the Hereafter, just
as the disbelievers have despaired of those (buried) in graves (that they
will not be resurrected on the Day of Resurrection)”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:13] 

In another verse Allaah explains that this is so long as they
are not taken as friends because of fear or taqiyah (i.e., being friendly
with them in order to avoid harm); if that is the case then the one who does
that is excused. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Let not the believers
take the disbelievers as Awliyaa’ (supporters, helpers) instead of the
believers, and whoever does that, will never be helped by Allaah in any way,
except if you indeed fear a danger from them”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:28] 

This verse explains all the verses quoted above which forbid
taking the kaafirs as friends in general terms. What that refers to is in
cases where one has a choice, but in cases of fear and taqiyah it is
permissible to make friends with them, as much as is essential to protect
oneself against their evil. That is subject to the condition that one’s
faith should not be affected by that friendship and the one who is behaves
in that manner out of necessity is not one who behaves in that manner out of
choice. 

It may be understood from the apparent meaning of these
verses that the one who deliberately takes the kuffaar as friends by choice
and because he likes them, is one of them. End quote. 

Adwa’ al-Bayaan, 2/98,99 

One of the forms of making friends with the kaafirs which is
forbidden is taking them as friends and companions, mixing with them and
eating and playing with them. 

  we have quoted Shaykh Ibn
Baaz as saying:  

Eating with a kaafir is not haraam if it is necessary to do
so, or if that serves some shar’i interest. But they should not be taken as
friends, so you should not eat with them for no shar’i reason or for no
shar’i purpose. You should not sit and chat with them and laugh with them.
But if there is a reason to do so, such as eating with a guest, or to invite
them to Islam or to guide them to the truth, or for some other shar’i
reason, then it is OK.  

The fact that the food of the People of the Book is halaal
for us does not mean that we may take them as friends and companions. It
does not mean that we may eat and drink with them for no reason and for no
shar’i purpose.  

Shaykh Muhammad al-Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have
mercy on him) was asked about the ruling on mixing with the kuffaar and
treating them kindly hoping that they will become Muslim. He replied:  

Undoubtedly the Muslim is obliged to hate the enemies of
Allaah and to disavow them, because this is the way of the Messengers and
their followers. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Indeed there has been an
excellent example for you in Ibraaheem (Abraham) and those with him, when
they said to their people: ‘Verily, we are free from you and whatever you
worship besides Allaah, we have rejected you, and there has started between
us and you, hostility and hatred for ever until you believe in Allaah
Alone’”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:4] 

“You (O Muhammad) will not find any people who believe in
Allaah and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allaah and
His Messenger (Muhammad), even though they were their fathers or their sons
or their brothers or their kindred (people). For such He has written Faith
in their hearts, and strengthened them with Rooh (proofs, light and true
guidance) from Himself”

[al-Mujaadilah 58:22] 

Based on this, it is not permissible for a Muslim to feel any
love in his heart towards the enemies of Allaah who are in fact his enemies
too. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Take not My enemies and your enemies
(i.e. disbelievers and polytheists) as friends, showing affection towards
them, while they have disbelieved in what has come to you of the truth”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:1] 

But if a Muslim treats them with kindness and gentleness in
the hope that they will become Muslim and will believe, there is nothing
wrong with that, because it comes under the heading of opening their hearts
to Islam. But if he despairs of them becoming Muslim, then he should treat
them accordingly. This is something that is discussed in detail by the
scholars, especially in the book Ahkaam Ahl al-Dhimmah by Ibn
al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him). 

Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen,
3, question no. 389. 

Secondly: 

With regard to what this person says about not mixing with
sinful Muslims for fear that he may be tempted by their sins, but the kufr
of the kuffaar does not tempt him, the answer to that is: 

As for not mixing with Muslims who commit sin, he is doing
well thereby, if he is not able to advise them and forbid them to do evil,
and he fears that he may fall into the same sins and think it is something
good.  

With regard to mixing with the kuffaar, the reason why mixing
with the kuffaar is not allowed is not only the fear that one may fall into
kufr, rather the main reason for this ruling is their enmity towards Allaah
and His Messenger and the believers. Allaah has indicated this reason in the
verse where He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Take
not My enemies and your enemies (i.e. disbelievers and polytheists) as
friends, showing affection towards them, while they have disbelieved in what
has come to you of the truth (i.e. Islamic Monotheism, this Qur’aan, and
Muhammad), and have driven out the Messenger (Muhammad) and yourselves (from
your homeland) because you believe in Allaah your Lord”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:1] 

So how can it be appropriate for a Muslim to keep company
with the enemy of Allaah and his enemy, and make friends with him? 

How can he be certain that he will not start to think of
their ways as good? Many Muslims have fallen into kufr and heresy and have
apostatized from Islam because of keeping company with the kuffaar and
living in their countries. Some of them have become Jews and some have
become Christians, and some have embraced atheistic philosophies. 

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