Islam Question and Answer – Ruling on divorce at a moment of anger

Ruling on divorce at a moment of anger
A Muslim woman says that her husband has often said, in moments of intense anger, “You are divorced.” What is the ruling on that, especially as they have children?.

 

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked
about a man whose wife treats him badly and insults him, so he divorced her
at a moment of anger. He replied: 

If you uttered the words of divorce at a moment of intense
anger and without realizing it, and you could not control yourself, because
of her bad words and insults etc., and you did that at a moment of intense
anger and without realizing it, and she acknowledges that, or you have a
witness of good character, then divorce has not taken place, because the
shar’i evidence indicates that divorce does not take place if the words are
spoken at a moment of intense anger – and if it is accompanied by not
realizing what is happening then the ruling applies even more so. 

For example, Ahmad, Abu Dawood and Ibn Maajah narrated from
‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no divorce and no
manumission in the event of ighlaaq.” The majority of scholars said
that ighlaaq means compulsion or anger, i.e., intense anger. For his
anger made him unaware of what he was saying, so he is like one who is
unconscious, insane or drunk, because of the intensity of his anger. So
divorce does not take place in this instance. If he does not realize what he
is doing and cannot control his words or actions because of the intensity of
his anger, then divorce does not take place. 

Anger may be of three types: 

1 – When a person is angry and is no longer aware of what he
is doing. This is likened to the insane, so divorce does not take place
according to all scholars. 

2 – Where a person is very angry but is still aware of what
is going on, but his anger is so intense that it makes him say the words of
divorce. In this case too, divorce does not take place according to the
correct scholarly opinion. 

3 – The ordinary type of
anger which is not very intense. In this case, divorce takes place,
according to all the scholars. 

From Fataawa al-Talaaq, pp. 19-21, compiled by Dr.
‘Abd-Allaah al-Tayyaar and Muhammad al-Moosa. 

What the Shaykh mentioned about the second type of anger is
also the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah and his student Ibn
al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on them both). Ibn al-Qayyim wrote an essay
on that entitled Ighaathat al-Lahfaan fi Hukm Talaaq al-Ghadbaan, in
which he said the following: 

Anger is of three types: 

1 – That which is not so intense as to affect a person’s mind
or rational thinking; he knows what he is saying and what he means. There is
no dispute that in this case divorce, manumission and contracts are valid. 

2 – Where his anger reaches such a limit that he no longer
knows what he is doing or saying. There is no dispute that in this situation
divorce does not take place. If his anger is so intense that he does not
know what he is saying, there is no doubt that none of his words should be
implemented in this case. The words of the mukallif (adult of sound mind)
are only to be implemented if he knows what he is saying and what it means,
and if the speaker really means that. 

3 – The kind of anger that falls between the two categories
mentioned above, where the anger goes beyond the ordinary level but not so
far as to make him behave like a madman. This is an area of scholarly
differences of opinion. The shar’i evidence indicates that divorce,
manumission and contracts in such cases are not valid, and this is a kind of
ighlaaq as the imams explained. 

From Mataalib Ooli al-Nuha, 5/323; see also Zaad al-Ma’aad,
5/215. 

The husband has to fear
Allaah and avoid using the word of divorce (talaaq) so that this will not
lead to the disintegration of his family. 

We advise husband and wife alike to fear Allaah and heed His
limits, and to look at what the husband said to his wife in a fair manner:
is this the ordinary kind of anger, which is the only case in which divorce
can take place, and this is the third type in which divorce does take place
according to scholarly consensus. They should be cautious and not transgress
the limits of their religion, and they should not let the fact that they
have children make them describe the husband’s anger at the time he spoke
the words of divorce to the mufti as intense so as to get the fatwa they
want, even though both parties know that this was not the case.   

Based on this, the fact that the couple have children
together should motivate them to avoid using the words of divorce
recklessly; it should not cause them to try to find a loophole in the shar’i
rulings after divorce has taken place and look for a way out or seek
concessions from the fuqaha’ with regard to that. 

We ask Allaah to bless us all with understanding of His religion and help us to venerate His laws.  

And Allaah knows best.

 

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